Is it okay to say “no”? I struggled with this concept for a long time. Saying “no” to someone always made me feel as if I was disappointing the person that was asking or making a request. As I’ve matured in grace, I have realized that it is okay to say no. Life is too short to please everyone. You’ll find yourself pleasing everyone and be lacking the things you really need to be doing for your family.
I love this quote.
“The difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say NO to almost everything.” — Warren Buffett
Wow, I think Warren Buffett said it quite well. What I love about this quote is “very successful people say NO to almost everything.” Success requires focus and knowing where you’re headed.
Reasons to say “No”:
- My time is valuable. As moms, we have a lot on our plates and valuing our time should be our number one goal.
- Overcommitted. I have overcommitted myself on many occasions. It creates frustration and a sense of not achieving my goals. Over committing also creates a very chaotic environment.
- Not a priority. Everyone and everything can be a priority if you let it. Learn to set those boundaries and stick to the things that are a priority in your life.
- Not in my family’s budget. This is a hard one. Every activity, outing or event may not be in your family’s budget at the time. Your family should have a budget for events, activities, etc. Stick to it and do not be persuaded to the left or right. You’ll end up spending money on things that were unnecessary and become completely upset that you did so. I can remember years ago going shopping with some family members on Black Friday. It was a huge mistake. At the end of the day, I spent money on things that were impulse buys and not in our family budget. So, take it from me, it’s ok to say “no”.
- Not a goal for our family. Every family should have goals. If you don’t know what your family goals are, start now to identifying them. If your goals are not defined, you’ll actually be striving for someone else’s goals.
- Reduces stress in your life. Oh, the big “S” word. Stress. Stress can kill you. It’s one of the silent killers, so be aware and try to live a stress-free life. By saying “no” with confidence and no condemnation, gives you a life of peace and freedom. We only have one life to live on this earth, so let’s do it with less stress.
- It’s my choice. There are times I just don’t have a reason and I’m okay with that.
In conclusion, as you practice saying no, you’ll become better saying it over time. It’s like a muscle, the more you work at it, you’ll build it up. It takes a lot of practice to have strong muscles, but I guarantee you, you’ll be happy you took the time to build up the muscle of saying “no” at the appropriate times.